
Spades anyone?
This weekend we had our first service weekend in our new gathering format at Pathway. Friday night there was an opportunity to serve at Freedom Fire, (http://www.freedomfire.org/. ) Saturday afternoon we served at TLC for families and children (www.kidstlc.org) and Sunday we met at the Commons for some rearranging and cleaning. All these opportunities were fantastic, but I wanted to share some brief thoughts on the time I spent at TLC along with seven others from Pathway.
Our group was serving at TLC for an afternoon of snacks and games with the kids Frankly, I was anticipating playing some “Snorta,” “Slap-Jack” or .other kids games with eight year olds. I was surprised when I found out we were going to hang out with some of the older residents, kids ages 16-18. Standing with a bag full of board games, cards, and some chocolate chip cookies made by a Pathway member did not instill in me a great sense of confidence that these kids would be at all interested in hanging out with us. I was concerned that this would just be an activity that they were forced to do with “geeky Christian people” who, I will confess, looked very similar to a bunch of Ned Flanders groupies. I was nervous and felt awkward. Those feelings quickly changed to excitement when one of the boys said “does anyone want to play spades?” I could do that and it sounded fun. It had been awhile since I stat around a table and played cards, but soon the melody of Kenny Rogers singing “you’ve got to know when to hold’em and when to fold’em” was running through my head and I was into the game. The conversation with the kids flowed easily and comfortably. I no longer felt like Ned Flanders and maybe they didn’t feel like a teenager in TLC’s program; just some people playing cards, laughing, talking a little smack and enjoying camaraderie or, to sound evangelical, some good fellowship.
This was a “service project” for the people of Pathway. The term, service project, sounds boring, daunting, and something that should involve a little self loathing and sacrifice; some old fashion Puritan self-denial. This Saturday afternoon was nothing like that. I had fun and I think the kids did as well. It was uplifting to connect with complete strangers, even teenagers who had tattoos. I don’t know the kids at TLC well. I don’t know their stories or what circumstances led them to be separated from family. I could speculate, but what’s the point in that? They are not projects that need to be corrected by my self assessed expertise. They are kids, who like me, have some good days and bad days, make some good decisions and bad ones, or who have been dealt a deck of cards and are playing the hand they have been dealt the best they can. Maybe someday I can share my story with them and who knows, maybe between deals of the cards, they might want to share their story with me. Maybe knowing their story will help me live better, be better, grow in my faith and maybe my story could help them the same way. Either way, I think our stories could both be better because of the others.
I received multiple comments and emails from those from Pathway who attended about how much they enjoyed it. and an email from TLC. These are shared without permission
From Pathway
Once again, so very proud to be a part of Pathway. The young adults we met today were amazing. I can't believe how open and friendly they were to us. It really hit me …how upbeat and positive they were, even conversing with total strangers. I think this is a project Pathway must commit to on a regular basis. I can see how we will establish relationships if we are there on a regular basis.”
From TLC:“Hey thanks a lot for the volunteers, they interacted very well with the youth and were very positive. All the kids talked about how much fun they had. This group was really good, we like them.”
What is the future for our relationship with TLC? I am hopeful that we will have the opportunity to weave our stories together more in the future. Often when we talk about serving at Pathway, I wonder if it can sound like a one way draining proposition – we give time, energy, effort, resources to others and then are drained of those resources, never able to get them back again. . Nothing can be further from the truth! The Christian faith is full of paradoxes and giving to others is one of them. I was blessed by my time at TLC – in being with others from Pathway and by meeting a wonderful group of kids. I grew in this experience in away that I could not have by doing another “church thing” and I think the kids got to experience a group of Ned Flanders church people in away that could never be experienced by inviting them to a teenage evangelistic crusade. What comes out of this? I don’t know. What I do know is that when the question comes, Does anyone want to play spades? I am in!

